The definition of cheat, according to Mr. Webster states 1) to practice fraud or trickery ; to violate rules dishonestly examples : to cheat at cards or cheating on a test
2) to be sexually unfaithful —usually used with on example : He was cheating on his wife. Unfortunately what are not defined are the reasons a person in a committed relationship may be forced to find another like minded individual to help fulfill the needs and desires that are currently and in most cases chronically unmet. In almost every cause I have documented to date, the number one reason a husband or wife may cheat is because he or she is burdened with unwilling or uninterested mate.
The statistics show that many, if not most spouses considering an extramarital affair try to make known to their partner that the relationship is in some way lacking an integral component. Sometime raising the issue is enough for some couples. Regretfully, more often than not a spouse will continue to be unresponsive to their partner. This in turn, may cause feelings of loneliness and a feeling of diminished self worth for the spouse that is left to find other outlets to met their needs.
A cold or self interested spouse may not want to end a marriage. Unfortunately money, property and children can make divorce an impossible option. So what then are the options for a person that is not ready or cannot leave a miserable marriage . The old word of wisdom given to housewife’s of the mid century was to take up a hobby. Of course golf or tennis may take your mind off of the predicament for a few blissful hours, but what happens when you go home and still face the fact that your mate isn’t what you need. While not condoned openly, many wives prefer that their spouse find what he needs elsewhere. The same holds true for men that cannot, or will not provide certain levels of affection for their wives.
There are more than a few places one may look to find the affection they crave. Of course bars and nightclubs provide opportunities to "hook-up". However, these are not the most discreet places to find a willing companion. It is a small world and while many spouses do not care or mind that their other half is fulfilling need outside the marriage, they also do not want the town to be talking about it either. Web sites dedicated to married but looking are clearly the most discreet way to find a partner who is likewise interested. Many sites are now available, further proof of the demand in the market for such products. I can recommend Ashley Madison as one site that will always practice discretion.
No matter what your ultimate decision, you are the only person that can determine the future of your life and how happy you will be living it. Living a life of wants and desires that will never be met may be just fine for some. Having the needs and desires finally satisfied is truly living for the rest.
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